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SUCCESS TIP: Here’s the sure thing 4-step formula for attracting more abundance:

1. Have grounded inspiration (feel excited)

2. Take consistent right action (do the right things in the right order)

3. Be nonattached from outcome (have a strong preference but don’t be wedded to the form the outcome takes)

4. Release your issues (surrender your ego self-importance).

Wahoo…happy creating!

Deborah Holt
Quantum Coach * Team Transformer * Author/Speaker
Be Happier * Work Smarter * Live Better
www.univerself.com
Helping people and organizations achieve their potential.

“It is a sin to be poor.” George Bernard Shaw
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You may already know that the word sin in Aramaic and Greek origin, comes from an archery term meaning “to miss the mark.”

In our society, we’re compensated monetarily based upon the value (real or perceived) that we provide. Currently, we place more value on our own entertainment than we do on our own evolution, transformation and growth. We have only to witness the salary-difference between a movie star and a teacher to get that point. We also compensate our sports figures multiple millions of dollars (Tiger Woods putted in over $80 million last year), yet we think spiritual teachers should be paupers. Now that’s faulty logic. However, many of us are conditioned to believe that it’s not “spiritual”   to make or desire large sums of money (green energy). This is nuts, because anytime we “damn” any part of creation, we also “dam” God.

For where is Source not?  Where is consciousness not?  Where is energy not?  Hello….it’s the same stuff!

When we truly understand that the money in our world (or lack thereof) is directly related to the value we provide, then we realize that those who aren’t making enough of it aren’t likely providing enough value. This is the “REAL Sin” in life. Through our faulty logic, and resultant beliefs, we continue to miss the mark.

Our mistake: an incorrect focus because we don’t believe we have value, so are not worthy to be more and receive more in life.

And so we dam God.

This plays out as the old school of thought that says, ‘you should find a good and stable job, work hard, save money, get out of debt, diversify and invest for the long term;’ or worse–’just accept that you have to make less money.’  This is ‘stinking-thinking’ and it no longer applies. To have more, You must change your mindset and your beliefs about wealth. Radical Harmonic Wealth is a balanced state of mind, body, heart and soul.  Listen to your voice within, and activate what excites and inspires you, to learn how you can attract more.  That’s how energy really works. We get more of what we align with and focus upon.

Powerful ideas coupled with observation and corresponding action will change your life.
For example, witness that in general, rich people do one thing extraordinarily well – that’s a key difference between being rich and not being rich.  Here’s another: When business people think about what’s in it for them, before they think about what’s in it for the other person, they usually get into trouble.

Getting into the business of service, demonstrating leadership, advancing spiritually, and using good advisors, are essentials to manifest balanced success.

Develop the discipline to pay exclusive attention to the Big ideas that can radically change your life and then behave-your-way to more success in life.

‘Okay,’ you may ask, ‘where do I start to change my life and how?’ First recognize…

Success Occurs by Becoming Significant.

We are here in this world to reach our potential and literally become as God–giving and sharing is the foundation of our being.
Really get that point and you significantly align with the Truth of what IS.

The purpose of our lives is to transform ourselves. As we do, we continue to advance our consciousness so that we may receive complete and ultimate fulfillment in Self-awareness. Self-realization means no further separation between Source and Self.  Our ego goes bye bye.
All our master teachers have told us this:  The way of salvation is through Love; and enlightenment is embodied Truth. So fall in love with your self and life as you follow Truth. ‘Loving Truth’ will set you free to become who you are meant to be c-r-e-a-t-i-v-e-l-y!

However, the process of self-transformation does not just happen; instead, it most often takes place between ourselves and other people. It is in and through our relationships that we learn how to add value and significance.

So our relationships — especially those to whom we are closest — provide our real opportunities to become the tolerance, sharing, inspiration, and love that are the very qualities of Divine essence.

These Spiritual qualities are the higher Values we most need to learn if we are to fulfill our true purpose in life. Our relationships help teach us. Once we realize this, everything that takes place between ourselves and others appears in a new light. Being in love — and opening ourselves to shared emotions and experiences — becomes much more than romantic or simply exciting. On a profound soul level, we are growing.

We are literally drawing closer to Source and by so doing, we claim the fulfillment that closeness brings: we add value. We serve.

It is not just the joyful moments we share with others that helps our transformation; even hard times and points of conflict are genuine opportunities for positive change.

The difficult moments we face are the opportunities our relationship’s give us when we have the eyes to see and receive the blessing. The problem is actually the gift: to remove an internal obstacle standing between us and unlimited happiness…our real destiny.

Too often ‘our sin’ is poverty of spirit.  We are focused on meeting and having the right person who exactly fits our needs and specifications. Then all too soon we forget we agreed to share their life, not to control it or manipulate to ‘be for me’  Don’t we know that dog won’t hunt? The real opportunity in our relationships is to become the right person — not find the right person.  That’s the true key to more loving relationships. Our difficulties and disagreements are, without exception, opportunities for us to become our Best Self.  One who takes complete responsibility for how we deal with conflict, and how we live our life.

When we shift our perspective away from “winning” and toward “helping”— especially when we’re angry — our anger dissipates.

It’s simply the way things work at the energy-level. Just as darkness cannot coexist with light, conflict cannot remain within an intention to help others.

The same relationship problems over and over again means you haven’t yet realized where the

real problem lies. You’re probably trapped in energy-patterns of waiting for others to change without correcting the ego-aspects of yourself. Make this correction and you receive a fundamental spiritual Truth:  you learn why your soul is here.

Souls come into the world many times to master life’s curriculum and attain spiritual correction; and will continue to do so until complete correction is achieved once and for all. Your closest relationships serve to help you master life’s curriculum and be completed.  It’s faster if you don’t spend your time hunting to find the perfect soul-mate to complete your work on earth. Instead, learn to transform yourself into the person you are meant to be: someone of deeper significance and value to others.

Source created the world. Source initiates and animates all into being. Our task is to recognize Source as our only soverign as we become the creative-cause partner in our own life. This means we agree to emulate the Creator-sharing essence. Since like-attracts like,  by becoming ‘Presence-essence,’ we receive the fulfillment that Source desires and intends for us.

This is the knowledge and the wisdom that our relationships have to teach us. And this is what we must open our hearts to learn.
As we do, more money comes as a byproduct of this singular focus: Significance = Success
Many very wealthy people never had a money goal for the entirety of life… and yet still have become multi-millionaires. Why?  Most say their entire life focus has been to learn, grow, love and give more value to self and others.  And why not

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As Warren Buffet states, “Money is just a convenient way of keeping score.”  Wealthy and spiritually-oriented folks like James Ray use the money his company generates as a feedback mechanism to see how much value he is providing to the world. No more, no less.

Here’s a power thought: Rich or Poor is a focus,

a vibration and a mindset that attracts more of the same.

“Poor,” is comprehensive. Poor is a state of mind, not just an empty wallet or purse. Those in our world who are poor are also invariably poor in their relationships, their intellects, their health, their spirit. All of these aspects are pillars of ‘Harmonic Wealth’ and yardsticks to see how well we are attracting and balancing true wealth in our lives.

To have more decide to serve more.  Ask, ‘how best may I serve today?’

To your greatest success,  Deb

Deborah Holt
Quantum Coach * Team Transformer * Author/Speaker
Be Happier * Work Smarter * Live Better
www.univerself.com
Helping people and organizations achieve their potential.

Every day challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectator

s mocks or cheers us. Every day brings new challenges whether we want them or not

and whether we’re up to them or not. Life forces you to face one skirmish after another – no choice in the matter. Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape.

Yet, you can choose which kind of gladiator– victor or victim–to be. Being ‘a victim’ in our modern day social arena translates into having bad relationships and lousy personal skills. Most of us are victims.  But let’s be clear–we’re victims of our own perceptions.

That’s because we don’t learn to change and develop ourselves by listening

to our own unique, authentic self. Instead we allow our mental spectators – those little tyrants rattling around in your head – to tell you second-by-second how to fight and win.

These tyrants applaud you and they hiss, while they encourage and also discourage you. It’s so confusing and debilitating.

These ‘mental spectators’ are the memories of the judgments of real-life people. It’s the memory of your aunt saying, “I hope you marry someone rich, because you’re not going far on those brains.”  It’s the echo of your father growling, “You’ve got a back problem – no spine! or “Real men don’t cry. So shape up and be a real man or I’ll give you something to cry about.”

And their influence over your life and relationships can’t be overstated.

Millions of people accept these judgments of their ‘mental spectators’ as the truth.  So mediocre results always come from believing those judgments. With so many people living this way, the question becomes, is this the way I have to live? The answer is not unless you want to.

But to move beyond your victim and become the victor, you must identify your mental spectators and your inter actions

with them.

Here’s eight steps for getting command…you can apply then to any outcome you want altered to positively influence your relationships, your employment options, and any aspect of your life that needs improvement:

1. Define What Ails You.
Ask, what’s my problem

? Am I jealous; troubled that others have what I want

? Am I ticked off most of the time? Am I sad and whiney? Anxiety ridden? Moody? Without this step, you’re doomed. It will take personal courage, but you can’t get results without identifying ‘what ails you.’

2. Discover the Effects.
Ask, how are my problems affecting my life ? Am I a lousy parent, a friendless dork, a backstabber, a drunk, a junkie? Am I none of the above, but someone who could be? This step requires absolute self-honesty.  Remember…the truth will help set you free.

3. Seek the Source.
Ask, from where are my problems coming? Who are my real and my mental spectators? Exactly who or what is keeping me from taking command of my life?  (What do my mental spectators look like, say, and do?)  You will look into the abyss and see who is looking back.

4. Identify Your Role.
Ask, how am I contributing to my problems

? What’s my responsibility in all this?  Did I decide to be a garbage disposal

? Do I beat myself to death trying to please others? Do I expect things of myself that are unfair

? Do I treat myself as a friend or an enemy? Do I allow my mental spectators to drive me to distraction, depression, anger, anxiety? Recognize your role in your own problems.  It’s a positive – and slightly scary step to know yourself and gain personal command.

5. State Your Desires.
Ask, what do I specifically want to do about my problems

? Do I want to continue to be a doormat, a glutton, a drunk, a friendless geek? Or do I want to rule my mental spectators? Do I want to stand up to a spectator, real or imagined, who puts me down? Do I want to take command of my education, my bank account, my relationships? Until you actually list your desires in the order of their importance, (goals) you will remain a victim. However, once you do this, you are on your way to being a victor.

6. Seek Options.
Ask, what are my options and in what order should I place them

? What is the first option to concentrate on? The second one? The third? If you have a soul-sucking hangover most mornings, you might opt to give up your booze buddies for real friends.

Second, take the money you normally spend at bars and deposit it in a college fund for yourself or your kids. If you’re a workaholic and want to spend more time with your kids, then DO IT.

Go to your deathbed …ask what should I have done differently  Most of us will say, “If I could live my life again, I’d spend more of it at work I love doing and with people I love.” Weigh options and alternatives, and make better personal choices. You are taking command. Do this and you’ll gain real power.

7. Learn Winning Techniques.
Ask, how do I rule my real and mental spectators? Must I collapse in a heap when they point thumbs down

? How can I learn to take charge on every life level to get a grip on my life and turn the situation around? There’s no “magic” just new action. A vanquished gladiator falls at the whim of spectators. You can decide your own course and work with coaches, mentors, friends, and teachers to help you make it so.

8. Master Your Relationships.
Ask, what more can I do to master my relationships by strengthening myself and my perceptions

? How do I take command right now and develop my own identification and self-worth?

Congratulations! You’re working on the one person in the world you can work on – YOU!  Any self-improvements will enrich your relationships with others and the world around you.

Let’s Recap:- Best 8 Steps to alter any outcome, influence your relationships, and command your life. ASK:
1. What’s my problem? (Define the issue)
2. How are my problems affecting my life? (Discover effects)
3. From where are my problems coming? (Seek the source)
4. How am I contributing to my problems? (What’s my role)
5. What do I specifically want to do about my problems? (State desires)
6. What are my options, and in what order should I place them? (Prioritize action)
7. How do I rule my real and mental spectators? (Learn new techniques)
8. What more must I do to now to master-my-relationships by strengthening myself and my perceptions? (Master relationships)

Remember…these 8 questions will adjust your perception & help you gain insight and control in any situation.

My best for your continued success,

Deborah Holt
Quantum Coach * Team Transformer * Author/Speaker
Be Happier * Work Smarter * Live Better
www.univerself.com
Helping people and organizations achieve their potential.

We all feel the need to stop pain and to increase happiness. So whenever we buy something, our subconscious mind is as active in our decisions as our conscious

mind. Therefore, almost everything we buy has both an emotional and a practical reason.

When we buy something, often we are trying to fill an emotional void. We’re trying to get closer to happiness and to create a life

that’s free of problems.

That’s why we buy what we want, even more than

what we need.

We’re trying to get rid of our pain or to increase our happiness. The exception is when you don’t feel an emotional connection…like to your laundry detergent or toilet paper — but any items that require a decision-making process will fall into the “emotional connection” category.

Here are the 6 basic human necessities that touch on our pain/happiness equation. As a business coach, let me suggest when selling a product or service, always link it to one of these to get your potential client to connect emotionally with the benefits of your proposal.

1. First necessity: Certainty
If you can prove to people that your product or service will bring certainty to their lives, they will buy it.

It can be the certainty of love, security, health, self-respect, financial freedom, or peace, you name it, just know your potential clients’ desires.

2. Second necessity: Variety
While there is a small group of folks that we would classify as “creatures of habit,” most people need variety to feel alive.

The same, over and

over again, bores them.

We travel, read, meet people, and try new foods, among other things for variety.

Some people hate routine, so present your product or service as a ‘routine breaker.’

3. Third necessity: Significance
Significance is a great buying motivator; however, people have different views and experiences about what is significant for them.  Clearly identify what matters to your potential clients so as to present the significance of your product or service for them.

4. Fourth necessity: Connection
Connection is vital in life.

We have the need to feel deeply connected to our family, friends, community, society, country and globe.

How can your product or service enhance that connection

?

5. Fifth necessity: Growth
Life is all about growth. People need to grow every day in order to feel alive, successful and prosperous. One can grow emotionally, professionally, spiritually, financially. If your product or service supports a person’ s growth in any area, they will likely buy it.

6. Sixth necessity: Contribution
Everyone has a purpose in life. Everyone was born to fulfill a mission, so we all need to know that our life matters. Human beings have the need to make a difference and to contribute to the wellness of the world in some way.

Your product or service will connect deeply with your customers if it offers them an opportunity to tap into their ‘helpful soul.’